I happened to see a very funny prose titled "Man", written by Liang Shiqiu.

Liang Shiqiu, everyone should have heard of it, a great literary scholar, a top student at Harvard University, the first person in China to translate "The Complete Works of Shakespeare", and left more than 20 million words in his life.

This "Man", written in the 40s of the last century, is less than 1,500 words in total.

Although seventy or eighty years have passed and society has undergone earth-shaking changes, this article is still outdated, because the nature of men is eternal, and I am afraid that it was laid down from the time when it was still in the tree.

In this article, Liang Shiqiu listed some characteristics of men, which is really funny to read.

I will summarize a little, so that female friends can have a more specific understanding of men, and let male friends compare and see if you have those characteristics that Liang Lao said.

1. Dirty

Liang Shiqiu said that the first impression that men give is dirty.

While it is true that there are quite a few men who are "clean and self-conscious", most of them are dirty.

For example, "some men, although their suit pants are straight, the roots of their ears and neck, and the soil are fertile, which is often suitable for growing wheat", "how many men wash their faces and wash their headquarters, and ignore the frontiers".

He also said an even more disgusting one, he said that many men's feet have a "kimchi, plum and dried vegetables with sugar and garlic smell", even if they are dirty, "since the feet are so dirty, some 'smelly husbands' like to dig back and forth where the dirt and dirt are hidden on the feet, and then sniff their fingers, which is fun!" - Listening to his description, I, as a man, can't stand it.

But what he said was all the truth.

Although the sanitary conditions are much better than seventy or eighty years ago, and the men are not so sloppy, the "dirty" nature still exists.

Just because of the dirty nature of men, how many husbands and wives have quarreled about this in their lives, no less than 180 times.

2. Fan

Speaking of men's laziness, Liang Shiqiu described it like this, "He is troublesome in everything, except for instructing others to do it for him", afraid of running errands, afraid of effort, afraid of bargaining.

Men are really lazy - of course, it's really wrong to knock over a piece with such a stick, but as far as my observation goes, my father, myself, and the men in our village that I know well, are all lazy people.

For example, I remember when I was a child, the people in the village did farm work, and everyone was you helping me and I helping you, planting rice as a family, and seven or eight couples working together. Like men, women do farm work, but when they come home from farm work, a bunch of old men drink tea and brag on the side, and women cook in the kitchen. At the time, I didn't think there was anything wrong with it, I was used to it.

But in recent years, I have been reflecting on myself, and I found that I do have a lot of bad roots, and laziness is not only a problem, but also a cognitive problem.

You can't just because you earn money to support your family, and when you get to the house, you should be an uncle, lying here and there and not caring about anything - to break this kind of thinking and build a family together, you should not talk about merit, but about hard work.

3, Feng

When it comes to men's gluttony, Liang Shiqiu said, "There is a person who hasn't eaten chicken for half a year, and he salivates when he sees a chicken feather broom", "After a full meal, his outlook on life can change, and he is optimistic about everything." ”

4. Self

Liang Shiqiu said that men are mostly selfish.

I'd like to expand on this and talk about my opinion, men and women, who is more selfish, it's a very interesting topic.

In the case of my family, my mother, no matter what, she only thinks about her own small family, while my father will be more generous to outsiders. Looking at it this way, it seems that my mom is a more selfish person.

But when I reached middle age, I realized that taking care of myself and my small family first is the most basic and correct thing, but it is the people who sacrifice themselves and their small families for the sake of outsiders are the most selfish.

Because, sacrificing oneself and sacrificing one's small family to please outsiders, in the final analysis, what you care about is your face and your image in the eyes of outsiders, which is even more selfish than ignoring your own children and parents.

5. Be emotional

In our stereotype, women seem to be the more emotional party.

But the truth is that the reason why men don't seem to be so emotional is because in many families, men don't worry much about the trivial matters at home.

If women don't care about so many trivial things in the family, maybe they won't be so emotional.

Liang Shiqiu said, "When he is happy, the child can ride on his neck, he can lead the neck to ride, he can crawl all over the ground like a dog; when he is unhappy, he looks at no one pleasing to the eye, sulking outside, and comes home to double the seizure." ”

Being angry outside and coming home to have a seizure – it doesn't just seem to be a man's problem, it's a lot of women's problem too.

6. The greatest sense of happiness comes from "usefulness"

A man's greatest happiness often comes from being seen as a hero, as a savior, that is, from feeling useful.

Liang Shiqiu said that men feel that their greatest favor to women is to take all or part of the money they earn home and give it to their wives. At that time, he looked proud, as if to say, "Look at me! How lucky you are that I treat you like this!"

From this point of view, if you want to scold a man, the most stimulating thing is to scold him for being useless, more hurtful, that is, he is not as useful as other so-and-so.

As a married woman, when you quarrel, if you don't want the conflict to escalate, then try not to say that your man is useless or anything like that.

7. Don't love women

Regarding whether a man has love or not, Liang Shiqiu said this, "He said that he loves women, but in fact he is not love, but he enjoys women."

I think this statement is very accurate, a lot of men are like that, they don't really love women, they just enjoy women.

The so-called love is the premise that I am willing to give everything for you, and I regard your happiness as my personal happiness.

Many women often say, "I don't want anything, I just want you to love me" - maybe when a woman says this, she doesn't know what she really wants.

In fact, a woman wants "love" because she wants to be placed at the center of the man's world, and hopes that in the man's world, she is more important than everything else.

However, this kind of love is not available in most men, in the world of men, there is often only himself, what they think, more about how to get ahead, how to be looked down upon by others, as for love or not, just listen to it, especially those women who are caught in extramarital affairs, should understand this concept.

A married man, no matter how much he says he loves you, even if he thinks he really loves you, he is willing to spend time and even a lot of money for you, but if you want him to divorce you, he is likely to get stuck in this step, because no matter how much he loves you, he will not be lost, after all, family, children, and face are what he cares about more, even if he doesn't love his wife, it is not easy for him to really divorce you.