Fate is unpredictable, and no one's life can always be smooth.
Those who can break through the difficulties of life and get the so-called "good life" favored by fate often have these characteristics.
Focus on image
Schopenhauer once said: "The appearance of man is a picture of the heart, and the appearance expresses and reveals the whole character of the fate of man." ”
No one is obligated to discover your inner excellence through a scruffy exterior that you don't even care about.
Seen such a story.
Hong Jie is the chairman of the well-known company "3Trees", and his products have been used as aerospace materials.
However, in the early days of the business, he experienced a lot of difficulties.
In 1997, when the financial crisis hit, the company he ran at the time suffered a devastating blow, and overnight, he went from being worth tens of millions to millions in debt.
Soon, with the rise of the construction industry, he realized that there was a huge business opportunity in the coatings market.
But he didn't have the money to buy raw materials, and one day, he put 3,000 yuan on his desk, which turned out to be lent to him by an employee.
Hong Jie asked the employee why he was willing to lend him money, and the employee replied: "In this situation, many people are disgraced, but you will always be clean and tidy." I don't think you're dead yet, and you'll definitely be able to make a comeback in the future. ”
It took Hong Jie 20 years to bring the company's market value to 2 billion, completing the counterattack in his life, and also verifying the employee's words.
Mark Twain once said, "The effort on the image will give you a stroke of God's knowledge, qualifications, and upbringing." ”
Maintaining a good image is not only a sign of respect for others, but also a signal that no matter what situation you encounter, you have the ability to handle it and face life in the best possible state.
A person's appearance hides a person's living state and the life they want to pursue.
Maintain a good image, don't be flashy, just tidy, and good luck won't take a detour.
Source: Visual China
Embrace change
Intel founder Andy Grove once proposed a theory of "10x change": "The outside world will always change 10 times faster than we expected." ”
Human nature hates uncertainty and the unknown, and those who are "lucky", they dare to accept challenges, have the courage to change, and take the initiative to embrace change, they will be ready before a crisis comes.
Seen such a story.
Zhou Zhou, the former host of "Big Windmill", entered CCTV work very early, and the programs she hosted were deeply loved by the audience, and she also grew from a child to a "senior" step by step, and many newcomers have received her help, affectionately calling her Sister Zhou Zhou.
With the rise of short videos, the TV industry has been impacted, and this question has troubled her for a long time, whether to go down steadily, or to escape from the comfort in front of her and pursue greater possibilities.
Finally, at the age of 41, she chose to resign and began to lay out the field of short videos and sell books live.
In the beginning, she couldn't sell a book for several days, and the number of people in the live broadcast room was often less than 100.
At the hardest time, she had to mortgage her house.
She began to constantly polish her words, understand the needs of the audience, and her sincerity and hard work allowed her to finally break out of the encirclement.
In 2021 alone, she sold more than 10 million books, after which she started her own business.
Fan Deng once said: "Changeability is the normal state of the world, and we must learn to embrace uncertainty in order to become the helmsman of our own destiny." ”
When we take the initiative to update ourselves and keep pace with the times, we can catch up with the tide of the times and create our own achievements.
Only by being prepared for danger in times of peace, always being curious about the world, and maintaining a love and expectation for life, can we accumulate energy before the crisis comes, and finally be invincible when the crisis comes, create more possibilities, and live a wonderful life.
Source: Visual China
Be patient
In the 80s of the 20th century, Tom Hopkins, the world's No. 1 salesman, set out to end his sales career.
People from all walks of life hope that he can pass on his successful experience.
He set up the venue in a large stadium and ordered a tall iron frame to be erected, under which a large iron ball was hung.
There are only 3,000 places available, and each person must pay $3,000 to enter.
At the beginning of the event, several young and strong men began to hit the extra-large iron ball with sledgehammers. However, no matter how hard they tried, the big iron ball did not move.
At this time, Tom Hopkins unhurriedly took out a small hammer from his pocket and struck it every 4 seconds.
Ten minutes passed, 20 minutes passed, and many people at the bottom became impatient, stood up and blamed him, and then left the scene angrily.
As if he hadn't heard, he continued to hammer the big iron ball unhurriedly.
More than 40 minutes passed, and most of the people were irritable and threw drink bottles and so on on the stage.
However, the beating did not stop, but became more steady and firm.
The time is getting closer to the end of the event, and there are less than 300 people left at the scene.
Suddenly, there was a scream from below: "The ball has moved!"
At first, the iron ball swayed in an imperceptible way, then it swung more and more, and finally the entire iron frame began to shake.
At this time, he slowly walked off the stage and said to the stunned crowd: "On the road to success, you don't have the patience to wait for success to come, so you have to use a lifetime of patience to face failure." ”
Of course, this story involves a lot of physical knowledge, such as the force of the strike, the physical properties of the iron ball, and the cycle of the strike, etc., and the specific process should be very complicated.
But it does help Tom Hopkins illustrate the point he wants to make vividly: the more valuable something is, the more patient it needs to wait. Those sudden good fortunes are actually hidden in our every bit of dedication and effort.
As the saying goes: what you do in March and April, August and September will give you the answer.
Source: Visual China
Have an altruistic mindset
I have heard such a saying: "Hold an altruistic heart and do altruistic things, and your fate will eventually improve." ”
There is such a story in the book "Talmud".
In 1844, Henry Lehman settled in Alabama, where he and his two younger brothers opened a grocery store.
But the local people have very low purchasing power, and their grocery stores are in danger of closing.
It turned out that every family here made a living by growing cotton, and after harvesting, they went to a distant place to sell cotton, and only when they got money to buy daily necessities.
In order to save his grocery store, Lehman began to find a way to help local farmers solve this problem.
He began to trade cotton for in-store goods, and as a result, a large number of cashless people became his customers.
The needs of the peasants were met, and Lehman soon became a wealthy local merchant in this way.
Schwarzman, founder of Blackstone Capital, said: "People who are in trouble tend to only care about their own problems. But the way to solve a problem usually lies in how you solve someone else's problem. ”
The so-called "good life" people are good at achieving a win-win situation, helping others solve problems, and also paving the way for themselves.
Source: Visual China
There is a saying: "A bird standing on a tree is never afraid of a branch breaking, because it does not depend on the branch, but on its own wings." ”
Those who are truly "lucky" will never leave the right to decide their fate to illusory luck, but be really prepared:
Pay attention to image, because image is our best business card;
Actively embrace change, dare to break through the comfort zone, take the initiative to improve cognition and thinking, and make the road of life wider and wider;
Always be patient, and those who have been in wait for a long time will fly high;
With altruistic thinking, giving roses to others, and having a lingering fragrance in our hands, the character we have accumulated will one day become the cornerstone of success.
The fate is determined by heaven, and the blessing is sought by himself.
I hope that our greatest confidence comes from ourselves.
Author: Zipeng, a post-90s generation who doesn't want to admit defeat, warms himself with words and heals others.