"The autumn wind and fallen leaves are piled up, and they come a thousand times when they are swept away. Laugh and sit in a casual place, and let him fall to the ground and turn into ashes. Writer Nan Huaijin set off a new trend of returning to orthodox culture in the contemporary literary world, he sorted out several classics of traditional Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism during his lifetime, and gave a new perspective to the interpretation of traditional Chinese culture based on his own understanding, and many people respectfully called him "Huaishi".

The cultivation of literature relies on extensive and profound reading, but it is also inseparable from the environment that is exposed to the ears and eyes. Throughout the literary history of ancient and modern China and foreign countries, many literary circles have been profoundly influenced by their parents, such as Su Shi's three fathers and sons all have a height that cannot be ignored in poetry, such as Alexandre Dumas who wrote the famous novel "La Traviata", and his father is Alexandre Dumas, a writer who also wrote several famous works.

But if such a theory is placed on Nan Huaijin's body, it will not be applicable. "Huaishi" Nan Huaijin's family is far from the field of literature, and Nan Huaijin's father, Nan Zhengyu, would not even have given birth to this son if he hadn't had a unique experience. What's the weird and interesting story in this? Maybe it all starts from the very beginning.

Teenagers run a family

"The wood falls and the geese cross to the south, and the north wind is cold on the river. The scene of the leaves withering and the cold wind rising in the poem is a sign that the bitter winter days are coming, and the invading cold is coming. Such a scene, when Nan Zhengyu had just fallen from his mother's womb, was also placed in front of his eyes.

Nan Zhengyu's family is a big family in the local area, but his father died of illness before Nan Zhengyu was born, and Nan Zhengyu became a posthumous son who was not taught and loved by his father.

Nan Zhengyu also has two older brothers, and the three brothers were raised by their mothers. In those days, the lack of pillars in the family was a very sad thing, the mother could not show her head as a woman, and Nan Zhengyu's two elder brothers also did not learn because of the lack of discipline, so the original prominent family heritage also withered as quickly as winter plants.

When Nan Zhengyu was 12 years old, the family's money had almost been squandered by his brothers, and the glory of the former Nan family disappeared like smoke and dust in the wind, and it was difficult to reproduce.

Faced with a dilapidated home and two older brothers who only care about fun, the young Nan Zhengyu has to start running the family business. But how can a causeway, which has been badly infested from within, be repaired in such a short period of time?

After thinking about it for a long time, Nan Zhengyu thought that perhaps the best solution was to "break and stand up", he sold all the remaining meager belongings, and then turned his head to learn a new craft - making coffins.

Newlywed Yan'er

"The edge of the sword comes from the sharpening, and the fragrance of the plum blossom comes from the bitter cold. "Nan Zhengyu is different from his two brothers, whether he is running a crumbling family business or turning around to learn other crafts, his heart is extremely determined, and at the same time, he also pours all his heart and soul into it.

At that time, the funeral industry was extremely shunned, so it seemed that the number of people was scattered, and the coffin makers were like coffins in their hands were covered with a faint shadow of death.

Under Nan Zhengyu's hard work, his carpentry skills improved rapidly, and he was soon able to open an independent coffin shop. At this time, the land of China has been invaded by external storms, and the whole society seems to be involved in a whirlpool of chaos, and the people who have been pressed to the bottom are trapped in fire and water and miserable, and they are facing the threat of death almost every moment.

In such a special situation, the funeral industry is particularly important, people do not want their relatives to go through hardships in life but can not rest in peace, so more and more people come to the door to ask for coffins.

"Business is humanity, and business is the first person. Nan Zhengyu, who was doing very well in business, soon accumulated a lot of wealth, but he was not easily blinded by money, and the greedy nature in his heart was still restrained from time to time.

Since he was a child, he has been in charge of the family business since he was a child, and he deeply understands that a mercenary businessman will never be able to do business for a long time, and only the way of doing business with "benevolence" is the long-term flow. Therefore, not only did he never open his mouth to the rich lion, but he even took the initiative to waive the cost of making the coffin when the poor were shy in their pockets.

Such a benevolent businessman soon gained a resounding reputation under the word of mouth of the people, and Nan Zhengyu's coffin business went to a higher level.

But as the days passed, Nan Zhengyu also faced a somewhat embarrassing situation, he had already become an adult, and he should marry a wife and have children and have a warm and peaceful little home, but in the funeral industry, who was willing to give his daughter to him? Nan Zhengyu often sighed to himself after busy work, feeling that he might not be able to marry for the rest of his life, and could only die alone.

But I don't come to the mountain, but the mountain comes to me. There is a local family surnamed Zhao, who values Nan Zhengyu's benevolence when he was a businessman, and thinks that he can be his son-in-law, so he takes the initiative to come to the door and wants to give his eldest daughter to Nan Zhengyu. Nan Zhengyu, who thought that he was going to die alone, never thought that he could have such a fate, so he hurriedly agreed.

The eldest daughter of the Zhao family is not outstanding in appearance, and her body is weak, so she is not a good match, but Nan Zhengyu cherishes his wife very much. is the so-called "lover's eyes out of Xi Shi", the mediocre-looking wife looks petite and cute in Nan Zhengyu's eyes, and he takes care of his wife after marriage, and takes his wife to heart almost all the time.

The grief of losing a wife

In troubled times, money and fame are like floating clouds, which are not as good as a candlestick and a bowl of hot soup in a small family. Nan Zhengyu was born without a father, but his mother had no time to take care of him all the time when he was a child, so he was almost like duckweed in the water for half of his life, lonely.

But after marrying, he finally had a close family again, and was able to return to the warm harbor after a busy day to gently comfort his tired heart.

It all seems to be going for the better, but there is no warning when the turning point in life comes. In the three years of marriage, his wife's health is getting worse day by day, even if she takes care of her, it is difficult to recover the decline, not only did she not give birth to a son and a half daughter, but also gradually fell into the depths of her life. One day three years later, his wife finally couldn't support the invasion of the disease, let go of the hand that was tightly holding Nan Zhengyu, and passed away.

The candlestick, which symbolizes warmth and stability, was silently extinguished in Nan Zhengyu's heart, and the moment his wife died, he became a lonely person in this turbulent world.

Nan Zhengyu, who has made hundreds of coffins, wept and made a coffin for his wife, and buried the love of his life into the loess with his own hands, and his heart seemed to be split in half, and half of it had been buried in the ground with the cooled corpse, sleeping forever.

The dead will not return, but the living will continue to walk. Nan Zhengyu, who was still immersed in the pain of losing his wife, made a vow that his beloved wife had passed away, and he would never remarry again for the rest of his life and mourn his deceased wife for the rest of his life.

How many once unswerving love in the world will eventually fade in the face of life and death, Nan Zhengyu is willing to make such a vow, which shows how much he looks and is infatuated with his wife.

Remarry your wife and sister

"Ask the world, what is love, and teach life and death?" Knowing that her son-in-law had made a vow not to marry for life, her mother-in-law was both moved and very sentimental. The Zhao family deeply felt that their son-in-law was not only very benevolent as a businessman, but also had a rare quality emotionally. If such a kind and sincere person really lives alone, and even has no heirs to support his old age, then isn't it the biggest injustice in this world?

Thinking of this, the Zhao family came to Nan Zhengyu's house again, and the mother-in-law expressed her willingness to marry her youngest daughter who had just reached marriage age to him, so that he could pass on the lineage and continue to burn incense.

Faced with such a proposal from his mother-in-law, Nan Zhengyu's first reaction was to resolutely disagree. It is precisely because he can't forget his wife that he is determined not to remarry for the rest of his life, if he marries his wife's sister, then not only does he violate his oath, but also a little messed up, which is really inappropriate.

Nan Zhengyu's resolute refusal did not make her mother-in-law feel pleased, but made her a little angry, so the Zhao family simply came to the door several times to lobby for the matter, and the son-in-law kept making trouble if he didn't agree.

Every day after hard work, he has to drag his tired body to deal with his father-in-law and mother-in-law who have been angry, Nan Zhengyu is really a little unbearable. After a period of time, Nan Zhengyu finally relented and agreed to his parents-in-law and married his wife and sister as a continuation.

Nan Zhengyu, who had a wife again, felt the warmth of home again, and he lived a dull life with his wife, and the only son he gave birth to made a great reputation in the literary world in later generations, and became a generation of literary masters, it was Nan Huaijin who was praised as "Huaishi".

Brief summary:

"Affectionate only has the spring court month, and it is still a flower that leaves people. The reason why Nan Zhengyu can be favored by the Zhao family is that he doesn't care about his identity in the funeral industry, and even is willing to give his younger daughter to him after the death of his eldest daughter, precisely because he has a compassionate heart and can treat people kindly, and he is particularly sincere and touching in his feelings.

Therefore, the most important thing for people to stand in the world is not fame and money, but to always maintain this kind heart, and to be clear and not swaying from side to side in dealing with emotions.