When my mother passed away last year, my daughter-in-law and I did not shed any tears at the mourning hall, and received our relatives who came to mourn with expressionless faces.
On the other hand, the eldest sister who has not been home for seven or eight years has been crying, snotty, and almost fainted.
Therefore, the relatives pointed fingers behind their backs and praised the eldest sister for her affection, while my daughter-in-law and I were labeled as unfilial descendants, and eventually became the joke of the whole village.
I feel very unconvinced by this, and I want to say it for everyone to see, am I really unfilial?
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My name is Chen Jianbin , my family lives in the countryside in the south, I am second in the family, and I have an eldest sister above me.
After I graduated from high school, my sister got married in the third year after I came out to work.
My brother-in-law's hometown is in the north, and I met my sister when I came here to work, and the two fell in love after some contact.
The reason is also very simple, my brother-in-law's home is too far away, and regardless of the fact that the transportation was not very developed at that time, even now, even in the developed transportation, it takes four or five hours to get there by plane, and you have to transfer to the bus when you get out of the airport, and drive for a few hours.
However, the eldest sister's attitude at that time was also very resolute, and she put on an attitude of not marrying a non-brother-in-law, and her father had no choice but to agree.
After the eldest sister got married, she and her brother-in-law stayed here for three or four years, and then the brother-in-law's family had elderly people to take care of, and the family went back.
Since then, we have been with the eldest sister's family less and more away, it is difficult to see each other in a few years, no way, the distance is too far, not to mention the time, a person's travel expenses have to spend thousands of yuan.
However, when parents, where are there those who don't care about their children, although they can't meet each other, but parents often pack all kinds of specialties and mail them to the eldest sister.
I remember one time, I traveled to Changsha and brought back the local specialty sauce plate duck, which I was reluctant to eat, so I left it to my parents, but I didn't expect to give it to my mother, so I packed it and sent it to my eldest sister.
After half a month of logistics, the eldest sister got the sauce board duck and it was already stinky, so it was wasted.
Later, the eldest sister gave birth to a child, and she couldn't bring it herself, and her mother-in-law refused to help bring it, so she wanted her mother to help, and that night, her mother packed her luggage, put down her work, and took a train for two days and two nights overnight.
During the period, the travel expenses and expenses were all paid out of his own pocket, and when he got there, he also took the money out of time to buy vegetables and improve the food for the eldest sister's family.
After about two or three years, during this time, I also formed my own family, and when the wedding was held, I notified all my relatives, and everyone came to cheer enthusiastically, but only my mother and eldest sister's family were missing.
The eldest sister's family was afraid of spending money, and there were children to take care of, so they finally decided not to come, and even if they didn't come, they still wanted their mother to stay and help.
But the mother resolutely refused, and paid for the ticket home, after all, her only son got married, and there is only one time in his life, even if he is far away.
However, when I was about to go out, my little nephew had a high fever and fell ill and needed someone to accompany him to the hospital, but my sister and brother-in-law had to go to work to make money, and in the end this task could only fall on my mother, and she missed my wedding because of this.
This has become the regret of her life, she was still talking about it before she died, she was poor when she was young, and she didn't hold a wedding when she got married, but she didn't expect that after her life got better, she even missed her son's wedding.
After another two years, my nephew went to kindergarten, and my mother was liberated and returned to her home after a few years of absence, and because I hadn't seen her for a long time, I almost didn't even recognize my daughter-in-law.
When I came home, my mother was like a fish in water, and she had a good time every day, arguing with her father, or going to the park to dance with the old ladies.
During this period, the eldest sister also looked for her mother several times, wanting her mother to go back to help, but in the end her mother refused.
She said that she put down her job and used to be a nanny over there, tired and tired every day, not only did she have no salary, but she also posted tens of thousands of yuan, so it was better to enjoy the life of old age here.
Hearing her mother say this, the eldest sister didn't speak, but there were fewer calls in the future.
But I think what my mother said is right, there are people here to chat with you to relieve boredom, and you don't have to do heavy housework, after all, she and her father live together, everything is very simple.
In addition, my wife often calls her parents to come over to eat after buying vegetables and cooking, so they save a lot of cooking effort.
However, although my mother did not buy vegetables, I would still give her and my father 1,000 yuan a month as food expenses, and it was their own business to spend them.
Later, I also had a child, the same can not be brought, can only turn to the parents of both sides for help, the father-in-law and mother-in-law know that they are also very enthusiastic response, from time to time to come over to help, each person for a day or two, everyone will not be so hard.
My mother often said that she lived more like a grandmother than a mother here.
In this way, more than ten years passed in a flash, during which the eldest sister's family came back three times, but each time they only stayed for less than a week, and then returned home in a hurry.
The longest of them, that is, seven or eight years ago, during the Chinese New Year, stayed for a full ten days before leaving.
Sometimes I joke with my mother, did your eldest daughter come back for so long, did she give you a lot of money as compensation?
As a result, after hearing this, my mother sighed and said: "How can there be such a thing, your father and I only add up to five hundred yuan, or I have to mention it in the past few years, and I have to say it every month, if you don't say it, you won't give it." ”
But the mother didn't blame the eldest sister's family, after all, the family has a scripture that is difficult to read.
In the past ten years, if my parents have any headaches and brain fever, my wife and I have taken leave to accompany them to the hospital, and my wife and I have tried our best to meet them one by one where they want to travel and what they want to do.
Later, when my parents were old and their bodies were not as strong as before, I discussed with my wife and took them into my own home, which made it easier to take care of them.
As for the eldest sister's family, we never expected it, and we have told their family a lot of things before, but the result is not of much use, distance is one thing, and the most important thing is that they don't care.
At the beginning of last year, my mother was diagnosed with cancer during a physical examination, and I immediately told the eldest sister's family the news and asked them to come back quickly, but they said that they were busy with work and kept shirking it.
Later, the condition deteriorated rapidly, and after just half a year, my mother had come to the end of her life, lying in bed and unable to move.
The mother was confused when she left, but she was still muttering that she wanted to see her daughter for the last time, but she lasted like this for a week, until she closed her eyes, and the eldest sister's family did not come back.
When the mourning hall was set up, the eldest sister and brother-in-law hurried to arrive, and then knelt down in front of their mother's last photo and cried, almost fainting.
In contrast, my wife and I were expressionless, not a single tear fell, in fact, I don't know why, I can't cry, maybe it's too painful to see my mother being tortured by the disease, and I feel that it is a relief that she is gone.
But because of this, my wife and I were left behind, saying that the two of us were unfilial, which became the joke of the whole village, and the eldest sister who cried bitterly was praised as a filial son.
Later, after the funeral was over, after the eldest sister's family returned, life returned to its former peace.
On a quiet Sunday afternoon, I found that my home was a little messy, and I wanted to clean it but couldn't find a broom, and after subconsciously calling "Mom", I suddenly seemed to realize something.
Immediately, tears flowed out like a flood that burst the embankment.
This story is fictional, please watch it rationally, if there are similarities, it is purely a coincidence, all pictures are from the Internet