Schopenhauer once said:
"The cause of socialization lies in the monotony and emptiness of people's lives. The need to socialize drives them together, but the many unsavory behaviors they possess drive them apart. ”
Eventually, they found the right distance to tolerate each other, and that was politeness. ”
Socialising is an important part of our daily lives, and good social habits can add a lot to our relationships.
Socializing, to put it bluntly, is a connection with people.
Those who have strong social skills, in addition to the visible enthusiasm and generosity, the more important qualities are sincerity and altruism.
Don't easily believe in the saying "the strong always walk alone", really powerful people are good at radiating their energy to others, and improve the surrounding environment with their own small efforts.
Such people, in the crowd, often have strong personality, vitality, and excellent popularity.
They never "enclose themselves", but use their strength. Hello everyone, it's really good.
Sincerity first
Stanislavsky once said, "Sincerity and simplicity are precious qualities of genius." ”
Looking at the world, there are many people with honey-mouthed swords, void and wronged snakes.
In contrast, sincere people seem to be somewhat "out of place".
However, this is not the case, and in social situations, sincerity is like a key that can open the hearts of others.
Treat everyone with a sincere attitude, not pretentious, not hypocritical flattery, in order to win the trust and respect of others.
A few years ago, director Jia Ling's film debut "Hello, Li Huanying" was released.
The film did not use any dazzling techniques and no overly complex narrative threads, but it still won many awards and earned enough tears from the audience.
Why?
In an environment that is good at storytelling, sincerity becomes a scarce quality.
Director Jia Ling pulled out the laughter and tears in his memory to show others, which in itself is a very risky behavior.
Fortunately, sincerity is always seen.
The name of Jia Ling's mother, Li Huanying, has been remembered by hundreds of millions of people since then. Today, when we talk about her and her mother's story, we still have tears in our eyes......
We don't have to learn so many skills in social situations, "sincerity is always nirvana".
Imagine if everyone could be honest with each other, how many disputes in this world would be resolved in laughter?
Sincere people often have the most enviable friendship.
Keep your promises
"Words must be believed, deeds must be fruitful. ”
In social interactions, keeping promises is the cornerstone of earning the trust and respect of others.
It is difficult for a person who does not believe in his word to gain a foothold in the social circle.
There was a well-known entrepreneur who broke his trust because of a no-show, causing his partners to leave him one after another.
He learned from the pain and made up his mind: if he had made a promise, he had to do it.
After a period of hard work, he regained everyone's trust and support.
Investors' evaluation of him has also changed from "unreliable" to "trustworthy" and "righteous".
Whether it's in business or in everyday life, keeping promises is essential to maintaining one's image.
People who are not trustworthy often have weak execution and no responsibility, and over time, the people around him will inevitably stay away from him.
Benjamin Franklin once said, "If you stumble, you can get back on your feet, but if you don't break your shoes, you may never recover." ”
A dishonest person is often like a drop of blue ink on silk, and once he has this behavior, it will be a stain that will not be easy to eliminate for the rest of his life.
May we all stick to our conscience, be trustworthy, and keep our own hearts pure.
Source: Visual China
Share in moderation
"Sharing is a state of mind. ”
In social interactions, sharing your experiences and feelings can bring each other closer and enhance mutual understanding.
Oversharing, however, can be off-putting.
In particular, oversharing, regardless of the occasion or time, can often become a social disaster.
A blogger once shared the story of how she and a friend went from acquaintance to breakup.
She and her friend in the post are small, in the same class in junior high school and high school, and the relationship was once very familiar.
However, as they were admitted to different universities and traveled to different cities, the friendship went from being lighthearted to a burden.
Send a lot of messages to her every day, regardless of whether the blogger is busy or not, he asks for video calls and games with the microphone.
If the blogger doesn't look at her phone for something, she will bombard her indiscriminately, and the video and voice "kill the serial calls"......
The point is that every time a blogger expresses her feelings positively, Fa Xiao will kidnap her with something like "Who made you my best friend".
The video link, vote, and "slash" must be clicked, and every sentence and topic must be responded to immediately......
Sharing is indeed the highest level of romance, but sharing regardless of the object, time and place will attract the disgust of others.
For the rest of your life, please grasp the scale of sharing.
Don't overshare and ruin your friendship with your friends.
Source: Visual China
Remain independent
"The spirit of independence is the true wealth of the individual. ”
In social interactions, it is essential to maintain the ability to think and act independently.
A person who is overly dependent on others will have a hard time gaining respect and recognition in the social circle.
A person who is in the same cloud cannot win the real favor of others.
I know a painter who is not from a professional background and has been studying Chinese painting on his own for 20 years.
Over the years, some people have also advised him to give up, "It doesn't work, why do you paint this", "Is it possible that you really want to be a painter".
However, he was unmoved, and always adhered to his creative philosophy, which was not affected by external trends.
Although his work was initially unpopular, he never gave up working in the field of art.
Since the advent of the media era, he has insisted on posting two works a day on social media.
After persisting for 5 years, one of his paintings suddenly received millions of likes.
Today, he has become a sought-after art blogger, earning a lot of money not only from his work and account, but also with great respect in the art world.
If he had listened to other people's advice back then, he might have been able to reminisce about the past and sigh in his twilight years.
Life is sometimes full of mysteries, we can't just rely on ourselves to go to the world, we also need the help of others on the way to growth.
However, in the face of major problems, insisting on oneself and maintaining independence is the embodiment of our self-awareness.
After all, only you can take responsibility for your life.
Source: Visual China
Write at the end
In the complex interpersonal communication, those who are really popular attract the attention of the surroundings like a magnet.
They do not win people's hearts by virtue of their flashy appearance, but by virtue of sincerity, trustworthiness and other qualities, they successfully enter our hearts.
As Schopenhauer said, the cause of social interaction may lie in the monotony and emptiness of life, but a true social master can have a strong psychological connection with people.
They do not follow the crowd, nor do they admire themselves, but embrace the world tenderly with a peaceful and firm attitude.
May we all find those partners who are truly in tune with our souls in this journey of life, "sit and listen to the sound of silk and bamboo, and sing and laugh until dawn".
Author: Zhelin, taking words as a forest, planting wisdom and insight.