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Once, like many ignorant girls, I was looking forward to a beautiful marriage. However, the experience of a failed marriage made me deeply aware of the importance of choosing a partner's family background.
My parents had very different personalities. My mother was strong and controlling, and she was strict with me since I was a child, and she did not allow me to have the slightest rebellion. The father was cowardly, unassertive, and obedient to his mother. At home, the mother is the absolute authority, and the father's presence is minimal.
This discordant family atmosphere has also affected the relationship between our siblings. We have lacked family affection since childhood, and when we grow up, we go our separate ways and rarely have contact.
Growing up in such a family environment, I became incapable of independent thinking and prone to drifting with the flow. The traditional concept instilled by my parents has given me a fixed pattern for marriage: find an honest man, husband and children, and live a plain life.
However, fate played a joke on me. During my college years, I met a boy who was very good in all aspects, he had a good family and a sunny and cheerful person. After we fell in love, I took him home to meet his parents with great joy.
Unexpectedly, my parents were firmly opposed to our relationship. They dislike my boyfriend's well-to-do family and think that he is not obedient enough and may disrespect me in the future. I argued, but my parents forced me to compromise.
The boyfriend couldn't stand the interference of his parents and finally proposed to break up. At that moment, my heart was like a knife, and I really realized how far my parents' desire to control and the family environment had affected me.
I decided to rebel against my parents and pursue my own happiness. I left home and moved in with my boyfriend. When my parents found out, they were furious, cut off my financial resources, and even threatened to cut ties with me.
However, I did not give in. I worked part-time while studying, and I was able to live a self-sufficient life on my own. My parents saw that I was resolute, and I gradually softened.
Eventually, my parents accepted my choice and sent their blessings. And I am glad that I am not bound by traditional ideas and have found a partner who truly loves and respects me.
This experience made me deeply understand that when you get married, you can't just look at the surface, but also have an in-depth understanding of the family background. A discordant family environment can have a profound impact on children and even ruin their happiness.
I thought I could live the life I wanted to live without the control of my parents. However, the imprint of the family of origin is not so easy to erase.
Although her boyfriend is excellent in all aspects, she grew up in a privileged environment and is inevitably a little arrogant. He was used to being pampered by his parents, he was self-centered in everything, and he rarely cared about my feelings.
At first, I was able to tolerate his petty temper, but after a long time, I began to feel depressed and aggrieved. I tried to communicate with him, hoping that he would think more about me, but he was always perfunctory, and even accused me of being vexatious.
We quarreled more and more, and the relationship gradually cracked. I began to wonder if I had made the wrong choice. Is such a family background really suitable for me?
One night, my boyfriend got drunk and threw a tantrum at me and even pushed me. At that moment, I was completely chilled. I realized that he was still at the heart of his parents, selfish and unrespectful of women.
I proposed to break up, but my boyfriend didn't agree. He knelt on the ground and begged for my forgiveness, vowing that he would change it later. But I've lost trust in him.
I left my boyfriend and rented a small house on my own. Despite the constraints of life, I felt more relaxed and free than I had ever been. I can finally do what I want to do and never have to look at other people's faces again.
After the breakup, I began to reflect on my relationship with my boyfriend. I found that the family of origin had too much influence on us. He was spoiled by his parents since he was a child and lacked a sense of responsibility and empathy. And I, who grew up under the control of my parents, lacked the ability to think independently, and easily relied on others.
Such two people are destined to be unsuitable for being together. We are like two parallel lines, which once crossed paths, but eventually drifted apart.
This failed relationship made me understand two truths:
Today, I'm still single, but I'm not in a hurry. I believe that one day I will meet someone who is truly suitable for me. A man with a healthy family background, a mature and stable personality, and a man who knows how to respect and love me.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, I am over 30 years old. Looking back, that failed marriage and romance is long gone. I'm still single, but I'm much more at peace.
I understand that fate is hard to come by. Instead of waiting, focus on improving yourself. I worked hard, got a higher education, and developed several hobbies. Life is full and meaningful.
However, my parents began to worry about my marriage. They often urged me to go on blind dates and introduce me to all kinds of men. But I have no interest in blind dates, because I have already seen through the essence of those men.
They are either well-to-do but arrogant and have no one in their sights, or they are mediocre but submissive and have no opinions. Such a man is no different from the boyfriend I used to date.
I didn't want to repeat the same mistakes, so I turned down my parents' arrangements again and again. When my parents saw that I was resolute, they had no choice but to give up.
One day, I was walking in the park and met a man. He is of medium stature and has an ordinary appearance, but his eyes are clear and his smile is warm. We talked for a long time and found out that we had a lot in common with each other.
He told me that his name was Lin Feng and he was a doctor. His parents were intellectuals and were strict with him from an early age, but they were also very open-minded. He is an honest and kind person, respectful of women, and considerate of others.
I was deeply attracted by Lin Feng's conversation and temperament. We started dating, and the relationship quickly warmed up. Lin Feng is very considerate to me and respects my ideas. He never forced me to do anything, he always communicated with me patiently.
With Lin Feng, I feel more relaxed and happy than ever. I finally met someone who really understood me and loved me.
After dating for a while, Lin Feng proposed to me. I didn't hesitate to say yes. We had a simple wedding with friends and family.
After marriage, we lived an ordinary and happy life. Lin Feng's career was booming, and I quit my job to concentrate on my husband and children at home. We have a lovely daughter and the family of three is very happy.
Looking back on the bumpy road in the past, I am glad that I did not give in. I finally found a man with a healthy family background and a mature and stable personality. He gave me a warm home and made me experience true happiness.
I want to say to my children: when you get married and find a partner, you must not only look at the surface, but also have an in-depth understanding of the other party's family background. A healthy and harmonious family will raise excellent and upright children. A discordant family can have a profound impact on children and even ruin their happiness.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, our daughter is already in elementary school. She is smart, lively and lovely, which is our greatest pride.
However, just as we were enjoying our family, an accident shattered our peaceful life.
That day, Lin Feng was in a car accident on the way home from work and was seriously injured. When I heard the news, I rushed to the hospital and saw him lying on the hospital bed, covered in blood, and his heart was like a knife.
The doctor told me that Lin Feng was seriously injured and needed a craniotomy. Surgery is very risky, and even if it is successful, there is a risk of sequelae.
I endured my grief and signed the consent form. The operation lasted for several hours, and finally the news came: the operation was successful!
Lin Feng was out of danger, but unconscious. The doctor said it was hard to say when he would wake up.
I stayed by Lin Feng's bedside day and night, never leaving an inch. I scrubbed him, told him stories, and hoped he would wake up sooner.
However, the miracle did not happen. Lin Feng has been in a coma for three months.
During these three months, I experienced the darkest time of my life. I have to take care of my daughter and Lin Feng, and I have to bear huge mental pressure.
I've thought about giving up countless times, but every time I see my daughter's innocent smiling face, I grit my teeth and stick to it.
Finally, after three months in a coma, Lin Feng miraculously woke up. Although he lost part of his memory, he recovered well.
After Lin Feng was discharged from the hospital, I quit my job and concentrated on taking care of him at home. I make him nutritious meals every day, accompany him to do rehabilitation training, and encourage him to start life again.
Under our careful care, Lin Feng's memory gradually recovered, and his body improved day by day.
Although Lin Feng's sequelae made him unable to engage in high-intensity work anymore, he found a new purpose in life. He used his medical knowledge to open a community clinic to provide medical care to residents in the neighborhood.
Lin Feng's clinic is doing very well, he has not only helped many patients, but also regained his value.
Watching Lin Feng stand up again, I was sincerely gratified. I understand that there will inevitably be setbacks in life, but with love and hope, even the greatest difficulties can be overcome.
Today, our daughter is in junior high school. She is excellent in character and learning, sensible and filial, which is our greatest pride. Lin Feng's body is also recovering well, and the clinic's business is also booming.
Our family of three lives an ordinary and happy life. Despite the storms, our love has grown stronger.
I would like to say to my children: life will inevitably encounter setbacks and tribulations, but as long as there is love and hope, even the greatest difficulties can be overcome. Believe that after the storm, there will always be a rainbow.