Children travel thousands of miles and mothers are worried", this is the common voice of every mother. They do their best to bring happiness to their children, but they don't know that their love has become a burden to them.
Aunt Wang, 71 years old, sold her house for her daughter and grandson, and used up her savings to help them buy a house. She has also lived in her daughter's house for 15 years, and is busy cooking and laundry and taking care of the children every day.
She thought she was already an indispensable member of the family, but one night she heard her daughter and son-in-law say something to her that broke her heart. That night, she decided to leave the house.
Aunt Wang's statement:
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I'm 71 years old and have been living with my daughter for 15 years, and I thought I was an integral part of the family.
But one night, they made me see a cruel truth: my parents' home is always a haven for my children, but my children's home has never been their parents' home. That night, I cooked my meal early and waited for my daughter and son-in-law to come back from work for dinner. On the dinner table are dishes that I have prepared with my heart: braised pork, fish-flavored eggplant, scrambled eggs with tomatoes, and green vegetable soup. These were their favorite dishes in the past, but today they don't have a bit of an appetite.
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The son-in-law spoke first, and he frowned and said, "Mom, why do you keep making these dishes?" We're all tired of eating, can you change the tricks?
I was stunned for a moment, and I didn't understand why he said that. Aren't these dishes their favorite?
My daughter didn't speak for me. She looked at her son-in-law coldly and said: If you don't like to eat, don't eat, don't pick and choose here!
The two of them blamed each other like this. They are getting worse and more hurtful. They completely forgot that I existed, completely forgot how I felt.
In the end, my son-in-law said something that I couldn't accept: You old people really don't know how to be flexible! You just cling to your old habits! If only you weren't in this world!
His words pierced my heart like a needle. I felt like I was going to suffocate. How could he say such a thing, how could he want us to leave!
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In order to prevent my son-in-law from continuing to talk, I couldn't help but stand up and slap my daughter and say to her: How can you talk to your husband like this? Do you know how hard he works every day? If you are a sensible woman, you should support him more! I beat my daughter because I wanted to protect her. I want her to understand that family harmony is the most important thing and that she should not get angry with him. I want her to understand that her marriage needs to be tolerant and understanding.
But my daughter didn't understand me. She was so angry that her face turned red, and she picked up the soup bowl on the table and threw it on the ground, splashing the soup on my clothes.
My daughter glared at me and said, "Why are you beating me?" Are you partial? Do you know how he treats me every day?
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I didn't bother with the vegetable soup on my clothes, and hurried to comfort my son-in-law. But my son-in-law pushed me away and said coldly: Are you satisfied?
Let me tell you, we don't love each other for a long time! We are only reluctantly together because of our children! If it weren't for you making trouble here, we would have left a long time ago!
After that, he ran back to the bedroom to pack his things, and after a while, he also left with his luggage.
Looking at the debris and empty room, I sat on the couch in a daze, tears streaming down my face.
I understood that it was time for me to go, it was time to leave this home.
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My wife died of a heart attack when her daughter was 9 years old. Since then, I have raised my daughter by myself.
After her daughter graduated from college, she found a boyfriend, who is now her son-in-law. They plan to get married, but the house is too expensive to afford.
I took all my savings, sold my house, and helped them buy a three-bedroom house. I also bought them a car to make it easier for them to commute to work.
In the second year of marriage, the little grandson was born. My daughter asked me to help with my grandson, and I came without saying a word.
That's 15 years.
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My daughter said to me at the time: Mom, you have paid for me all your life, and now I have a family and a business, and you are also a grandmother. In the future, you can live with us, and we will be filial to you!
That was the most touching thing my daughter had ever said.
Although it was very difficult for me to take her alone in those years, my daughter's words made me feel happier than I had ever been.
In the past 15 years at my daughter's house, I have gotten up early and gone to bed late every day, cooking, laundry, and taking care of the children, and I have almost all of these housework.
In order to let my daughter and son-in-law rest a little longer, when my grandson was young, I often hugged him to sleep and told him stories.
Cook them a different dish every day so that they can eat healthy.
My grandson was also the most clingy to me when I was a child, and in the blink of an eye, my little grandson is now in high school.
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But I don't know why, in the past few years, my daughter and son-in-law's temper has become worse and worse, either because my food is too greasy, or because I talk too much. Watching his grandson grow up, the couple quarreled more and more.
One night, when I came back from a square dance outside, I heard my daughter and son-in-law arguing loudly in the house. They were arguing so loudly that they didn't even notice that I was coming back from outside.
The son-in-law said: We work hard every day to earn money to support the family, and she knows to dance and watch TV at home all day long, and never shares a little pressure for us.
The child has grown up, how long is she going to live in our house? Every time I see her doing nothing, I feel very uncomfortable. If you don't talk to her, I'll have to make it clear to her!
"It was not easy for her to raise me alone over the years. She likes to dance and watch TV, so why bother with her? If you don't like her cooking, you can cook more.
When the child was young, you begged her to come over. Now that the child is older, you want her to go? It's so unfair to her! How can I be worthy of her?"
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Hearing the words of my daughter and son-in-law, I finally understood. It turned out that the two of them often quarreled, not because of work pressure or weak feelings.
It's because of my existence that they feel bored and restrained, and it's because my son-in-law wants her to drive me away, and I'm embarrassed to speak, so I deliberately find fault with my daughter and quarrel with my daughter.
I pretended not to hear and went back to my room, my heart hurting like a knife. That night, I didn't sleep all night, and my tears kept flowing.
The next morning, I got up and packed my things and quietly left my daughter's house before dawn. Before leaving, I put the key that I had carried in my pocket for fifteen years on the table, and the moment I walked out of my daughter's house, my heart was like a knife......
At that moment, I realized that I was just an outsider at my daughter's house after all, and maybe I should have left a long time ago, and I shouldn't have delayed until now. It's my old lady who is self-righteous.