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Text丨Shangguan Gu Jiu

Editor丨Shangguan Gu Jiu

Preface

My name is Wang Xinran and I am 55 years old.

I finally got a deputy senior title, and I originally planned to retire at the age of 60 to enjoy life, but since my son and I traveled for 7 days, I couldn't help but change my mind on the return high-speed train.

So, what exactly happened during this period?

My family

I was born in a scholarly family, my father was a high school Chinese teacher, and my mother was a private school teacher.

I am the only child in the family, but my parents have been strict with me since I was a child, so that I have not developed the habit of pampering, whether it is studying or dealing with people, I try to do my best and not let my family worry about it.

Around 1977, my parents' salary was not very high, and they never gave me a penny of pocket money except for tuition fees and necessary clothes, which led to my childhood being spent in envy of others.

I remember one summer, my mother was taking me home on her bicycle, and there was a man on the way who was holding a white wooden box and selling popsicles, which cost five cents a piece, but no matter how much I begged my mother, she wouldn't buy them for me and let me save money.

Perhaps influenced by my parents since I was a child, I have been very frugal since I was a child, and I don't have much demand for food, drink, clothing and entertainment. Put all your energy into learning and strive to become an excellent people's teacher like your parents.

After the college entrance examination, I was admitted to the best normal university in the province with good results, and during the university, my parents still did not give me too much pocket money, and I could only study hard in my spare time, so my grades have always been good.

After graduating from university, I was assigned to teach English at an experimental middle school in the county, and in my second year of school, my colleague introduced me to a young man who worked in the town government, and he looked very literate, so after we dated for half a year, we established a relationship.

It's just that his family is rural, and there are two younger brothers at home, but they didn't do much, and they didn't even get into high school, so the family decided to build a house for each of them in the village, so life is a little tight.

So when I told me about it, I even felt a little guilty, afraid that I wouldn't like him. But I've been used to living a frugal life since I was a child, and I don't have much material requirements, as long as he loves me.

When my parents learned of my idea, they did not object to the relationship, and even waived the man's bride price, and before the marriage, my parents also gave me all their life savings:

"Xinran, it's not that your parents don't want to spend money for you, we save money so that you won't be underestimated when you get married in the future, you take the money and buy a house to live in, so that you can raise your head at home and not be bullied. ”

At this time, I realized my parents' love for me, and I couldn't help crying and hugging them tightly.

In the early stage of marriage, I spent money to buy a house, and I was very embarrassed to see this, saying that he would love me well and would not let me be wronged.

Promote job titles

My wedding day was very uneventful, nothing big happened, I gave birth to a son for my husband in the second year of marriage, and the family of three lived very happily.

My husband is busy with work in the township, and sometimes he sleeps at work at night when he works overtime, and it is very troublesome for me to take care of the children at home alone, but fortunately, my parents will help me take care of my son when they are free, which makes me feel a lot less stressed.

Maybe because I am a teacher, my son has never let me worry about learning, from elementary school to high school, he has always been among the best, and he was successfully admitted to the provincial key polytechnic university in the college entrance examination.

My son's three years in high school were the most difficult for me, and anyone with children in my family will know that the three-year high school career is not only a torture for children, but also a kind of torture for parents.

My husband was promoted to deputy section cadre in the township, and he had no time to take care of the family because of his busy schedule. So during the three years that my son was in high school, in addition to teaching at school, I had to go home after work to prepare three meals a day for my child, so that he could have enough nutrition to study.

It wasn't until my son was admitted to university that I focused all my energy on my work, and I took two graduating classes in a row, and our class was at the top of the English score every time, so I was often able to get the certificate of excellent teacher at the county level.

Anyone who has been a teacher knows that the promotion title is the lifelong pursuit of teachers, which is not only an affirmation of personal work ability, but also an increase in income, if you can be promoted to a deputy senior title, the monthly salary will be 1000 yuan higher, so the temptation is great.

Fortunately, when I was 50 years old, I was successfully rated as a deputy senior professional title by virtue of the certificates and achievements accumulated before, and my monthly salary was as high as 7,000 yuan.

My parents were very happy to hear the news, they have been teachers all their lives, and naturally understand how much I have contributed during this period, and their encouragement to me is the motivation for me to move forward.

After graduating from university, my son successfully entered a state-owned enterprise, in order to give my son a place to live, I discussed with my husband to take out most of our savings, pay a down payment for my son in the city, and the rest need my son to pay 6,000 yuan a month.

However, considering that my son has just worked and does not have such great financial strength, my husband and I give our son another 4,000 yuan every month, so that he only needs to pay back 2,000 yuan.

Less than three months after buying a house, one of my son's college classmates took the initiative to pursue him, and the girl also worked in the city.

The daughter-in-law's "person"

After my son got married, I called my parents to have dinner with my son and daughter-in-law, because my parents brought my son up, and we ate and talked at the dinner table.

Suddenly my father asked me when I was going to retire, because I was 55 years old and my son was married, so it was time to calm down and enjoy life.

But I have my own concerns, because if I can pay an extra 5 years of pension insurance when I retire at the age of 60, I will get more money in my hand when I retire. But my life now is actually not bad for money, and I can retire whenever I want.

My husband also supported me, saying that he would not interfere with my thinking and would retire whenever he wanted, without any worries.

But my daughter-in-law strongly supported me to work until I was 60 years old and then retire, saying that I could work with a salary of nearly 40,000 yuan a year, and I didn't have to be exposed to the wind and sun in school, so it was better to work for a few more years and earn some money to spend.

After listening to my daughter-in-law's words, I also felt that it made sense, so I decided to work until I was 60 years old and retired.

Last year's National Day, the family finally had a seven-day holiday, and my son and daughter-in-law were going to travel to Yunnan, so I don't know why they had to pull me, ostensibly to take me to enjoy life.

I didn't agree at first, because travel must cost a lot of money, and I didn't want to spend money on it, but I couldn't bear their soft grinding, so I decided to go with them.

I prepared a lot of hard-boiled eggs and steamed buns in advance, ready to eat on the high-speed train, after all, it takes more than ten hours to go to Yunnan, and I will inevitably feel hungry on the way.

After sitting in the car for a few hours, my daughter-in-law was hungry and was going to buy a boxed lunch on the high-speed rail, and when I asked the price was 50 yuan a box, I hurriedly said: "I still have a few steamed buns here, you two can eat a boxed lunch, don't worry about me." ”

After hearing this, my daughter-in-law did not refuse, and directly asked for a boxed lunch for them, while I ate steamed buns on the side. Finally arrived in Yunnan, and the daughter-in-law did not match the hotel she had booked at night, so she had to stay in a homestay for 800 nights.

I originally wanted to persuade her to be patient, but my son tried his best to defend his daughter-in-law, and I didn't say anything when I saw this. In the process of traveling, the daughter-in-law also bought several pieces of clothes worth thousands of yuan, and she also chose the most expensive ones for eating, drinking and having fun.

My husband and I both work in the system, we don't earn a lot of money, and sometimes we don't want to buy a dress for years. I was afraid of spending money on this trip, but I didn't expect to be afraid of anything, but I didn't get angry, after all, this is the first time they traveled after they got married, and I, as the man's parent, should naturally be generous.

The night I went home, I made an expense book, and the 7-day trip cost 40,000 yuan, which is just my expenses, and they spent nearly 20,000 yuan, to say the least.

A little later, I went to sleep in my seat first, and I heard my daughter-in-law say: "Husband, we have spent 60,000 yuan in the past few days, but fortunately, your mother is not retired, so she can reimburse us a little." ”

I was shocked when I heard this, and she then said: "I've thought about it, we will go to Sanya next year, and let your mother reimburse us when the time comes." ”

After hearing this, my son said: "Be quiet, don't let my mother hear, she will save her life and save money, if she hears you say this, she will be unhappy, and she will definitely not give us money at that time." ”

I listened to these words and continued to pretend to sleep, but secretly made a decision in my heart.

epilogue

After returning home, I decisively submitted a retirement application to the school, and together with my husband, I raised flowers and grass at home, and no longer cared about my son's life.

People should still be kind to themselves when they are old, children have their own lives, and if parents help too much, it will only make them more old, and the gains outweigh the losses, so they have to live on their own.

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