It is said that the love of the elderly for their children is undisguised.
But there is also an example, some old people advocate filial piety under the stick, they don't care about the educational philosophy of young people, and still educate children according to their own thinking.
is like an old man in Ningbo who slapped his child twice in public in a restaurant, which made many netizens unbearable.
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Here's what happened
In a snack bar in Ningbo, a little boy in a white sweatshirt sits at a table.
On the right side of the boy, an old man dressed in black was shouting at the child: "Do you want to eat?
Seeing that the little boy still didn't eat, the old man's backhand was 2 slaps, the little boy subconsciously closed his shoulders, and his body dodged to the side, but he still didn't dodge, and after being slapped, he covered his face and didn't dare to cry.
According to the proprietress revealed that the old man was the child's grandfather, and he beat the child more than once, and it is estimated that the child's parents did not know.
This video was uploaded to the Internet, and netizens left messages one after another, and mothers couldn't bear it.
"Slapping a child in the face will make the child lose his self-esteem, and the education of the elderly is rude. ”
Judging from the child's subconscious dodging actions, he is often beaten, the old man is not doing it right, so that the child has a psychological shadow, even if the child does not eat, you can also pack the meal and wait for him to eat when he is hungry. ”
"If you have the ability to beat your own son, don't beat someone else's son. ”
We understand that the elderly are good to their children, and they hope that their children will eat well, but education should also pay attention to ways and means, and we can't blindly beat and scold, and scolding will not play a good role.
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Harsh VS spoiled, which method is better?
In life, there are a lot of elderly people with children, and we don't need to focus on identity.
Whether it is a grandfather or a grandfather, identity is not the focus, the focus is on how to guide the child well?
Judging from the picture, this child doesn't want to eat, maybe he is not hungry, or maybe he is a picky eater, we have no way to judge.
A mother's message is very real, she said: "I take care of the children by myself, and there are times when I have an emotional breakdown, the eldest eats very abrasively, the same meal, the second child has finished eating, he hasn't eaten much, I am so angry that I want to do it." ”
When encountering a child who does not cooperate, the parents will be angry every minute, from this point of view, you can't completely blame the old man, maybe this child is really naughty.
Compared with harshness, pampering is also incomprehensible.
Tell me an example from a close friend.
I once went to my aunt's house, who has an 8-year-old grandson who likes to watch cartoons.
When it was time to eat, the grandson refused to come out and was still watching in front of the TV, so the aunt shook her head helplessly, broke all the dishes into two portions, and put a small table in front of the grandson for him to watch and eat.
After eating with us for a while, the aunt was not at ease, so she ran to see her grandson again, and found that her grandson had not eaten a bite, so she could only coax her grandson to eat, squatting aside and feeding it mouthful.
I was very surprised to see it, and persuaded my aunt not to spoil it so much, it would make the child develop bad habits.
The aunt said: "You can't let him skip eating, the food should be cold later, he was not sensible when he was a child, and it would be good to grow up." ”
Watching the aunt spoil the child, I thought of my cousin's complaint, saying that the child was too naughty and disobedient at all, you said a few words to him, the child lay on the ground and sprinkled, and the aunt immediately came to protect the short, making her speechless.
Parents should also be very uncomfortable when they encounter such an elderly person who spoils their children like this.
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The education of the child is returned to the parents
Whether it's harsh or spoiled, it's not suitable.
For children, growth is only once, and parents still have to do it themselves.
Many parents need to go to work, and they can only leave their children to the elderly, and there may be a lot of helplessness in their hearts, but if you don't worry about it, it will be too late to regret it when the child reaches the rebellious period.
I appreciate the approach of an education blogger.
She also needs to go to work, so she invited her mother-in-law to help take care of the children, and before her mother-in-law took up her post, she specially trained her mother-in-law.
That is, the communication of educational concepts, such as not letting children play with mobile phones, meeting children who are naughty, adhering to principles, etc., concretizing some things, and letting mother-in-law know how to take care of children.
Some people may not think so, who will not take children with the elderly?
In fact, some methods of the elderly, may not be correct, their starting point is good, or spoiled or too strict, will not play a good role in the child, parents must guide, in order to let the elderly know the problem.
For example, if the child is not eating well, there is no need to compete with him, you can take away all the snacks and take out the food for him to eat when the child is hungry.
And tell the child that only by eating three meals a day and eating on time can he have a chance to get rewards, so that the child knows that the meaning of cherishing food is much stronger than your scolding.
Finally, I also want to tell my friends, don't criticize the old man, he just has an outdated educational concept, and the absence of the child's parents is the most worthy of deep thought.