30 years ago, I didn't have children, and now my life is like this: the current situation of 55-year-old Dink is embarrassing
In this era of rapid change, people's perceptions and lifestyles are constantly changing. Thirty years ago, there were some people who chose not to have children, and they were called "Dinks" because they lived with freedom, career and pleasure as the main theme of their lives.
At that time, they enjoyed the sweetness and freedom of the world of the two, were not bound by children, and lived a chic and comfortable life. However, time is unforgiving, and when they enter old age, they often have to face the invasion of loneliness and regret.
Sister Chen, a typical 60-year-old Dink woman, and her husband were both elite in the workplace when they were young, and both were keen to pursue career and personal freedom.
They felt that having children meant sacrificing their time and space, so they hit it off and decided not to have children and live a relaxed life. In those years, they traveled, shopped, participated in various social activities, and their lives seemed to be unlimited.
However, as she grew older, Sister Chen began to feel the difference in life. Whenever she sees the family reunion and laughter of relatives and friends around her, she always feels an inexplicable sense of loss in her heart.
Especially at her own birthday party, when she saw the children of other friends' families running around, innocent smiles reflected on everyone's faces, she couldn't help but start to doubt her choice.
Once, Sister Chen was admitted to the hospital because of a sudden illness, and on the hospital bed, she looked at the gray sky outside the window, and her heart was full of loneliness and helplessness.
In those days, she deeply felt the pain of not having relatives around her. In the dead of night, the lights in the ward were dim, and she could only endure the pain alone, with no one to accompany or comfort her.
This experience made Sister Chen begin to regret her original choice. She began to realize that the benefits of having children are not only related to the family, but also to be able to have someone to rely on when she needs help and companionship.
She began to envy those families with children, envy them for being able to enjoy the joy of family life, and enjoy the happiness of being surrounded by children.
In fact, it is not unique for Dinks like Sister Chen to feel lonely and regretful in old age. When they are young, they may feel that they can better pursue freedom and quality of life without the constraints of children, but in old age, they often have to face the dilemma of being unaccompanied. Especially when there is a physical problem and someone needs to take care of it, the feeling of helplessness and loneliness is even more indescribable.
Although they avoid the hardships and pressures of raising children, they also lose the joy of growing up with their children and sharing the bits and pieces of life.
When they enter old age and have no children to accompany and take care of them, the feeling of loneliness and helplessness is unimaginable for ordinary people.
Nor can we generalize that the life of the Dinks is unfortunate. Everyone's choices and experiences are different, and some people find joy and meaning in life even without children. However, we also cannot ignore the problems and challenges that the Dinks may face in old age.
With the changes of the times and the development of society, people's conception of fertility is gradually changing. More and more young people are pursuing freedom and careers, and their desire to have children is gradually decreasing. This has also led to a general decline in fertility rates and an increase in the Dink phenomenon. However, we need to recognize that procreation is not only an individual choice, but also a social responsibility and obligation. A healthy society needs a sufficient population to support its development and progress.
While we pursue freedom and career, we should also seriously consider the issue of childbearing. We should not blindly pursue individual freedom and pleasure at the expense of our basic responsibilities and obligations as human beings.
We should assume the responsibility of childbirth at the appropriate time and contribute to the development and progress of society.
What I want to say is that whether we choose to become Dinks or not, we should cherish our lives in the present and face the challenges of the future positively. If we choose Dink, then we should try to find other ways to fill our lives so that we can remain content and happy in old age
If we choose to have children, then we should assume the responsibilities and obligations of parents and provide a warm and harmonious family environment for our children. Either way, we should strive to make our lives more fulfilling and meaningful.